Square Breathing

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Square Breathing

Learn how to incorporate square breathing into your grounding toolkit

Square breathing is a commonly used technique to incorporate breathwork into your relaxation and grounding work. We often hear about the importance of focusing on our breathing when we are in states of hyperarousal, however many people share that in the moment it’s hard to concentrate on their breathing. Square breathing, like any mindful practice, is of course going to take time to practice and get used to; however, square breathing is a great way to start working on focusing on your breath in times where we’re feeling anxious, stressed, or triggered.

Square breathing involves using the shape of a square to help you time your breaths in and out, as well as time you are holding your breaths for. By using the shape of a square, you can trace around the shape (in your mind, or physically) and count. Some people find square breathing helpful because, while you are still doing the same breathing you would be doing in any breathing exercise, the added task of focusing on and tracing the square shape helps with a) timing and b) giving your brain another sensory thing to focus on. Focusing on breathing and the square can help ground us and take our attention away from our hyperaroused state.

Square breathing can be done anywhere at any time, and can be done in a number of different ways. Picturing a square shape in your mind and counting to ten means that you can do square breathing anywhere you are – at home, at work, on the bus, out in public, etc. Some people may find it easier to do this with their eyes closed, while others may choose to find a square/rectangle shape in the room/space they are in and follow the square shape with their eyes as they breathe. Other may practice square breathing by tracing the square shape with their finger on their palm or thigh while they breathe.

Square breathing doesn’t have to just be limited to the shape of a square either! It’s easier to start with a simple four-sided shape, but there are lots of other options people may use instead, including doing star breathing! 

Title reads "Grounding With: Square Breathing". Below this is a box shape made of four arrows. The top side of the box has text above that reads "Breathe in for 4". Moving to the left side of the box, text reads "Hold for 4". Moving to the bottom of the box, text reads "Breathe out for 4". Finally, on the right side of the box, text reads "Hold for 4".
Title reads "Grounding With: Square Breathing". Below this is a box shape made of four arrows. The top side of the box has text above that reads "Breathe in for 4". Moving to the left side of the box, text reads "Hold for 4". Moving to the bottom of the box, text reads "Breathe out for 4". Finally, on the right side of the box, text reads "Hold for 4".
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Types of Grounding

Types of Grounding

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Types of Grounding

Types of Grounding: Mental, Physical, and Soothing

There are many different types of grounding exercises that can help us feel more calm when we face stressful situations or triggers.

Grounding strategies help us cope with overwhelming emotions (i.e., anger, sadness). We can detach from the emotions we are feeling to gain a sense of control. Grounding uses outside sources to help “anchor” you to the present and to reality. These three types of grounding listed here all work to achieve the same goal of regaining mental focus, feeling stable, and feeling able to manage our emotions. 

Many people with PTSD or those who are struggling with feeling overwhelming emotions and memories, or those feeling numb with dissociation, benefit from grounding.

Types of grounding can include mental strategies, physical strategies, and soothing strategies. Having a list of various different grounding strategies is helpful, as some techniques may work better for some people, or some techniques may work better for certain situations we are in. It can be overwhelming in the moment to remember grounding strategies, so having a physical list or one in your phone can help you try out various strategies whenever you need them. Grounding can be done anywhere and no one around you needs to know you’re using grounding strategies! 

Grounding is a skill, and like any skill it requires practice to get used to. Try practicing these types of grounding techniques even when you don’t need them so that you get used to them and get a sense of which techniques you like and which you don’t enjoy as much. Try to start using these grounding strategies right when you start to feel your emotions getting bigger- it’s much easier to get into the habit of grounding when we still feel okay, rather than when our emotions feel too overwhelming to manage. 

Types of Grounding: Mental Grounding. Text reads "Play a categories game with yourself (e.g., types of dogs, a food for every alphabet letter). Say a safety statement like: My name is ____, I am safe now, I am in the present not the past. Describe to yourself or write down an everyday activity you enjoy in great detail. Describe the room you are in in great detail."
Types of Grounding: Physical. Text reads "Run cool or cold water over your hands. Dig your heels into the floor and focus on the feeling of being connected to the ground. Clench and release your fists. Eat a sour candy. Carry a grounding object in your pocket that you can reach for whenever you need. Focus on your breathing.
Types of Grounding: Soothing Grounding. Text reads "Have a list of kind mantras and sayings you can repeat to yourself. Think of a safe space you enjoy and go there in your mind. Listen to your favourite music or read your favourite book or poetry. Think of your favourite things that bring you joy, or look at photos of them.
Types of Grounding: Mental Grounding. Text reads "Play a categories game with yourself (e.g., types of dogs, a food for every alphabet letter). Say a safety statement like: My name is ____, I am safe now, I am in the present not the past. Describe to yourself or write down an everyday activity you enjoy in great detail. Describe the room you are in in great detail."
Types of Grounding: Physical. Text reads "Run cool or cold water over your hands. Dig your heels into the floor and focus on the feeling of being connected to the ground. Clench and release your fists. Eat a sour candy. Carry a grounding object in your pocket that you can reach for whenever you need. Focus on your breathing.
Types of Grounding: Soothing Grounding. Text reads "Have a list of kind mantras and sayings you can repeat to yourself. Think of a safe space you enjoy and go there in your mind. Listen to your favourite music or read your favourite book or poetry. Think of your favourite things that bring you joy, or look at photos of them.
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The Window of Tolerance

The Window of Tolerance

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The Window of Tolerance

Understanding The Window of Tolerance

The Window of Tolerance is a tool we use to learn about our zones of dysregulation and how we can use grounding to get ourselves back in the present moment. Everyone has a “window of tolerance”, the zone in which we feel we’re able to manage the ups and downs we experience in daily life. This zone does not mean everything is perfect, we can still feel the entire range of emotions, but we feel present in the moment and able to manage.

 Everyone has a different sized window of tolerance- going through traumatic and difficult experiences can “shrink” our window so that things we may have previously been okay with might make us feel bigger emotions (navigating new triggers, etc.). However, through grounding and other healing work we can grow our window of tolerance as well!

When we dysregulate into “hyperarousal”, that’s when we experience intense feelings of anger, anxiety, fear, etc. We might feel incredibly heightened, like we are ready to burst at any moment. On the other end, we may dysregulate into “hypoarousal”, when we experience intense feelings of sadness, depression, and apathy, often feeling numb and lacking motivation. When we notice ourselves feeling dysregulated and feeling like we might be moving into hypo- or hyperarousal, that’s when we want to use grounding tools to bring us back to the present and back within our window of tolerance! 

Remember, we aren’t getting rid of our emotions and we’re not getting rid of the hard stuff, but we’re bringing ourselves back to the present so we can better manage those emotions and reach out for support. It can be hard to focus or know what to do/what we want when we’re at either end of the spectrum, so getting as close to the middle as we can might even just help us have a moment to think, breathe, and plan out what we need next in the moment to feel okay.

A double-headed arrow facing north-south is in the centre of the page, separated into three coloured sections. In both the top and bottom arrow heads text reads "Time to Ground!". The top section is in orange and titled "Hyperarousal". On the left side of the arrow head is a cartoon picture of a volcano. On the right side of the arrow head text reads "Red/hot emotions (anger, anxiety, fear). Feeling heightened, tense, ready to burst, scared, etc." The middle section of the arrow is green and titles "Window of Tolerance". On the left of the arrow text reads "Still experiencing daily ups and downs, but feel able to manage. Everyone has a different sized window and it can change over time. Grounding helps bring us back to our window of tolerance." In the middle of the arrow is a cartoon image of a window looking out into a blue sunny sky with plants on the ledge. The bottom section of the arrow is blue and titles "Hypoarousal". On the right side of the arrow head is a cartoon image of a penguin on an ice floe. On the left side of the arrow head text reads "Bleu/cool emotions (sadness, depression, apathy). Often associated with numbness and lacking motivation."
A double-headed arrow facing north-south is in the centre of the page, separated into three coloured sections. In both the top and bottom arrow heads text reads "Time to Ground!". The top section is in orange and titled "Hyperarousal". On the left side of the arrow head is a cartoon picture of a volcano. On the right side of the arrow head text reads "Red/hot emotions (anger, anxiety, fear). Feeling heightened, tense, ready to burst, scared, etc." The middle section of the arrow is green and titles "Window of Tolerance". On the left of the arrow text reads "Still experiencing daily ups and downs, but feel able to manage. Everyone has a different sized window and it can change over time. Grounding helps bring us back to our window of tolerance." In the middle of the arrow is a cartoon image of a window looking out into a blue sunny sky with plants on the ledge. The bottom section of the arrow is blue and titles "Hypoarousal". On the right side of the arrow head is a cartoon image of a penguin on an ice floe. On the left side of the arrow head text reads "Bleu/cool emotions (sadness, depression, apathy). Often associated with numbness and lacking motivation."
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